My Coaching Session: Navigating Overwhelm, Moving and Feeling Stuck

Posted On Dec 9, 2019 By admin With Comments Off

Have you ever wanted to be a fly on the wall in a coaching seminar? To hear how it goes down, what you can expect and what other people talk about?

Well, same. So when OG Life Goals contributor, coach and healer, Tess Brigham pitched a coaching streak where we document coaching sessions so people can see what it looks like, I was very into it. I’m always up for experimenting with new, more personal ways to connect with you all. So I thought it would be a cool opportunity 1) to experience coaching myself, as I’ve never certainly done it and 2) to certificate this time in my life where I’m going through a major transition phase: moving to Washington D.C.

While it’s now amply official and I’ll be leader that practice VERY soon, we’re going back in time to my first coaching seminar with Tess from a couple of months ago. And you’ll participate the moving excursion in the coming months documented through this series.

Here’s an edited, decreased explanation of my first exchange with my coaching period about overwhelm, moving, length and grappling with the unknown.

Tess: So I would just love to hear, what are the main goals you want to work on? If they’re not very clear right now, that’s fine. First I want to hear about your goals and then I would love to sort of backtrack a little bit and hear about your history and just get a framework of your life phenomena up until now, if that sees sense.

Coley: So one of my objective would be to kind of get some purity on how to deal with so much going on. I feel like I get so overtaken that I mostly closed down and don’t feel like I can do anything. Like I don’t know where to begin with all of it…in both slog and then with Life Goal. The motif in the past would be that I was very average in school. I basically like watched a ton of TV, wasn’t doing fulfil things instead of it. I drummed myself up over not doing much all the time. I deemed to be myself lazy in those times when I know I’m not fully slothful. Now, I obviously get more material done, but it’s an interesting mindset thing where even when I’m relaxing these days, I feel guilty for it.

Tess: So what was your major? What did you study in institution?

Coley: I studied business with an emphasis in marketing. Emphatically more interested in the marketing stuff.

Tess: Okay. And then you went back home after college?

Coley: Yeah, I struggled to find work out there. So when I have a job in Long Beach, I decided to take it. Not even thinking about how it would convey long distance for my sweetheart and me. I frankly envisioned I’d commute, until I realized that it would be about two hours each course and it wasn’t sustainable. But I didn’t definitely sounds like I had any other job opportunities.

Tess: So you’re still in the same position, same companionship?

Coley: Yeah.

Tess: And do you enjoy it?

Coley: I like it. I was actually considering leaving two years ago and then I got offered advertisement. So I decided to stay; got my own apartment and so all of that was really great. I is in a position to do a great deal of what I want to be doing with this job. The work is good. It’s actually very similar to the work that I do for Life Goals. But it’s not the same kind of fulfilling.

Tess: I’m curious, what inspired you to start Life Goals? Did you begin to it around the time that you got this activity?

Coley: I did, yeah. It was probably a few months before.

Tess: So what motivated you to say, “Well, if I’m not going to get a job, I’m just going to do it myself.”

Coley: I imagine I caused it with some hope that someday I could make money from it, but I emphatically knew it wouldn’t be for awhile. So it wasn’t really like I was trying to start my occupation with it. It was just something fun to do. I had a blog before that and never genuinely was almost like it had a purpose. But then I witnessed someone doing something an online store that I really liked and I asked to contribute for them and then it various kinds of expanded me and spawned me realize like,” Oh, I could probably compose something like this but a lane that’s more my mode .” I could have more consistent content than I supposed to do now from a variety of people who know more than I do about personal growing, at the time. And then from there, I found that it has become a passion.

Tess: Since you started Life Goals, have you thought to yourself like,” Oh, forget it. I’m just not going to do this anymore” or is it always been like,” No, I’ve never thought about leaving and stopping the blog .”

Coley: Yeah. It’s funny as there is occasions where I think that and then immediately I’m like , no. Because it isn’t true. I probably would be happy in another field, like I could get there. But this is the thing that light-headeds me up. And I don’t know, I don’t really second-guess it a lot. Like I have fairly firm ideology that this is what I’m meant to do.

Tess: So tell me what’s going on in your life today?

Coley: I feel a little stuck right now, because Zach is waiting on a undertaking give from DC. While they are doing a background check, that can take up to a year or more. It’s already been about a year. I time feel like we’re both ready to be in that next chapter. We’ve been together for five years.

Tess: Oh wow. Okay, can I ask questions, how aged are you?

Coley: I’m 27.

Tess: Wow…that’s a very long time for your senility.

Coley: And been somewhat long distance for three of those years.

Tess: What’s that been like?

Coley: It’s hard, because I believed to be both feel like there are a lot of sacrifices we’ve been making for years now. I moved out here to Long Beach which represented we only see each other on the weekends, if that. At the same time, he was getting two surmounts grades, often had obligations come up last minute a lot on the weekends, which has been really difficult in our relations, extremely lately.

Tess: It sounds like the two of you have been moving forward in your individual lives and moving forward in your individual vocations but you’ve been apart for a great deal of it. What’s amazing is that during this developmental time of each of your lives from 22 to 27, you have been able to stay together, want to be together and stay in each other’s lives. This time of each of your lives is when you need to focus on yourself, proliferate your job and construct their own lives. It’s incredible that the two of you have weathered this tornado together. It can be hard because sometimes the relationship can’t be your first priority.

Coley: That’s the most challenging part for me. When Zach tell’s me last minute he’s got something going on for make or he needs to help his family with something, it provokes a fright in me of being alone and “re going to have to” like, you are aware, figure out what to do with my day. I think there is definitely an vistum of my struggling with the interval that is just being unpleasant with having to work toward my goals even if they are I know what they are.

Tess: Feeling upset reaches gumption, especially when it’s so last minute! Let’s talk about what you last said, what are you scared of?

Coley: I’m scared of my goals I guess.

Tess: Tell me more about that.

Coley: I get caught up in feeling disturbed that we don’t get to invest enough time together. I judge excellence time might be my beloved conversation, this is why it feels especially difficult for me. Zach has a lot going on in his life and a lot of people who count on him. So I get upset a lot when things “ve been coming”, because I can’t spend time with him. But I also think that fear comes up when this happens, because it leaves me with having to figure out something else to do with my time.

Tess: This is really interesting because it sounds like you’re wondering if it’s the DC situation that is keeping you deposited or if it’s your own resistance that’s preventing you from working towards your goals.

Coley: Yeah. I think there’s some resistance.

Tess: Then I think it would be good for you to think about what it is that you want to do so “youre starting” shaping plans for yourself so you can stop stopping feeling dependent upon his life projects and in turn this will do “youre feeling” less peeved during this process.

Here’s what I want you to do this week. Think about your vision for their own lives. What is it that you want? If Zach and this chore place wasn’t a factor, what selects would you be forming right now? You want to know what’s important to you, outside of this relationship, because this is your life and your vocation needs to move forward too.

Find some time this week to work on this exercise. Get a notebook and find a hushed smudge and close your eyes. Visualize your standard life- don’t skimp and don’t get into how you’re going to make all of this happen, you really want to focus on what you ideally require for your profession, your friendships, romantic relationships, fund, sexuality, health, every aspect of their own lives. “Once youve” that eyesight, write it down and be as detailed as possible.

Coley: Racket good.

Tess: Great! We can talk more about what you wrote during our next session. See you then.

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